When I’m with my buds on the golf course and we tee off on the first hole, a “Mulligan” is frequently offered for an errant tee shot. It happens only on the first tee. On the drive. We call it a “breakfast ball.” It’s a do-over. Even if we’re playing for a few coins it’s “hit another – nobody saw that first one.” During the round – a single Mulligan may also be given. Wherever you want to take it (except on the green). A do-over. . . . .
Wouldn’t it be nice if in life we had do-overs? Mulligans? For errant words or deeds. Or behavior. We do in a way though the granting of a do-over lies in the province of the recipient – or arbiter – of the errant words or deeds. It’s called “forgiveness.” I am confident that we all have things we’d like to do over. And we’re all grateful for the granting of forgiveness (or lack of ill consequence). I’m sorry . . . . It’s okay. No worries. I know I’ve said some hurtful (or dumb) things and done some even dumber ones that I’d like to call back. But in the words of the great poet Omar Khayyam:
“The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,
Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.”
Our futures are for the most part in our own hands. The “moving finger” business is probably a good reason to think before we act — or speak. And knowing of our own fallibility – and frailty – better reason to be generous with the granting of Mulligans to others. It’s okay. No worries.