Our children. Magical. Incipient. Can do. . . . whatever.
Each child is born – and blessed – with certain inherent natural proclivities. Nature. A quirky combination of genetics and heredity that suggest that this child could become a stellar musician or physicist or linguist or actor. But how often do you hear about parents who say “I played football so my Johnny is gonna play football – whether he likes it or not.” Or “my daughter will go to Yale” or “my boy will be a doctor [or banker or business person]” or “my son will not play with toy soldiers.” Or “My daughter will go into the family business making widgets.”
Guiding a child to learn broadly and to have varied experiences is positive. It is a big plus to learn. But efforts to “steer” or worse yet “order” a child into this school, that profession, this sport or my business is not only hurtful, it may be badly counterproductive. It can mean that little Johnny – while a violin virtuoso in the making – is actually discouraged from such pursuits (a la “Billy Elliot”) in order to pursue what mom or dad want. Or it can mean encouraging – nurturing – a child to reach their full – grand – amazing potential. Sunlight. Water. And optimal growing conditions for life . . . .